“We don’t get over losing someone.
We learn to live a new life in their absence.” Olwynne Cade
All of my work is a celebration of life.
I have been working with families in my capacity as a Funeral Celebrant for 14 years.
My philosophy for taking a service is to keep it simple and do it well.
A funeral service should aid the grieving process not add to it and the best services are where those who knew the deceased person intimately are completely involved in the creating and delivery of the service. My role is to guide and support family and friends as they remember and celebrate their special someone.
Taking funeral services was not something I ever thought about doing. It found me one day in 2000 when I was called upon by a friend of mine who was a Funeral Director and asked if I would consider taking a funeral service. My background up until that time was in the arts producing and directing theatrical events. As well as the theatre, I was a motivational coach and speaker.
It really began while I was standing at the sink peeling potatoes and as they do when spirit are about to give me something very important they flood me with words to the point that I am forced to down tools and take up the pen. I put down the potato peeler, found a pad and pen and this is what they had to say.
FOR THOSE I LEAVE BEHIND
One day before I came here I looked in upon your lives and decided, “I want to live in your house.”
I watched without you knowing and you also without knowing watched for me. Then one day when the time was right, I came to live within you and you within me. Then I came to live in your house and you in mine.
I chose you because you weren’t perfect and that meant I didn’t have to be. I chose you because you could teach me about love all kinds - how to love, what is love and what is not love. I chose you because I could observe you together and apart and see how it is done and not done. I chose you because you reminded me daily of what I had come here for. I chose you because you also chose me for all of the reasons that I have just mentioned.
Ours is a relationship chosen by two or more souls to grow and love and grow some more and now it is time for me to leave you as I have achieved all that I came here to do and you must go on. Remember what I said in the beginning; I came here looked in upon your lives and decided I wanted to live in your house…… I am always in your house and you in mine. We are never separate for love in eternal and souls never die we just change form.
To you my beloveds my heartfelt thanks; you have changed me irrevocably forever. My soul will be forever better because of our relationship.
Do your grieving for the loss of my body. Weep and wail and gnash and scream and cry for parting is so hard and heavy on the mind, but know that I am just a thought away at any time. Then one day when the time is right we will do this again you and I and you may perhaps leave first and I will experience the loss. Until that time – life goes on. ‘Till we meet again. I love you always.
Copyright. Olwynne Cade 2000.
I had no idea what this meant or how I was to use these words until about 20 mins later my phone rang and I was offered my first funeral service. It changed my life. As the years have passed I have come to know so much more about these powerful words and even more so as I took up the work of Past Life Regression and the study of life between lives.
The first service I took was for an elderly lady whose time had come. I met with her family and listened to her life story. They told me how her mother was ploughing the field and stopped to give birth to her under a nearby tree. That was it for me. I was hooked.
I felt privileged to be a part of something so beautiful that honoured someone's life and I wanted to hear more of people's stories. Over the past 14 years I have heard hundreds of stories and I never fail to be amazing at how seemingly ordinary people have lead such extraordinary lives. It is always the simplest things that mean the most.
My spiritual beliefs allow me to feel akin to the families that I work with and those who have passed into spirit. I sometimes get them whispering in my ear about what they would like. Sometimes families don't know what music to play or reading to have and I am given insight by those in spirit as to what will be suitable.
I know that life goes on and that although they are lost from our sight they are just a thought away at any time looking out for us and sending their love to us.
If you feel that I could assist you in any way to prepare for the passing of your family member or friend then please contact me at any time and I will meet with you to talk further about how together, we can create a service that will give you something special to reflect upon with good memories.
I look forward to being of service.
With my warmest regards
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Business 03 390 0152
Cell: 022 029 5859
Olwynne is a Soulologist and Life Coach, Teacher, Speaker and Writer who specialises in the soul's journey through the fields of reincarnation, past lives, life between lives, life after death, human consciousness, intuition, spirituality, health and well-being. She has studied and practised for 28 years in these fields.
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