How is it possible to find the right words and actions to express our feelings when someone we love dies?
When we are in shock and grieving, we are vulnerable and need someone trustworthy to guide us and give us good information to act upon.
A funeral service is the way in which we say goodbye.
Every life is worth celebrating. No matter how long or short. Whatever has transpired in our lives for better or worse, when we die we hope that those we leave behind will find something to celebrate and remember us by. When our time comes, all that is left is our shell; our body. The life force, spirit, soul, that inhabited our body is gone and to those who are left behind, we are ‘dead’, never to return. The grief and sadness this brings about in those who are left to grieve, is unbearable and makes little if no sense at times. We gather, we speak, we sing, we laugh and cry. We pray for them and ourselves. We wish them well and pray for our God, if we have one, to take care of them and us. We carry them in and out. We show pictures or movies of them and we light candles. We place their treasured objects around them to remind us of who they were. We do all of this to feel closer to them and to bring them to life while we try to acknowledge their death. We also do it with the hope that they have gone somewhere beautiful and are at peace; that one day perhaps we will also find peace and happiness out of the devastation and sadness that blankets our lives since their passing. - from Good Grief - Making Goodbye Memorable by Olwynne Cade.
What you do and how you do it, needs to aid your grieving process not add to it.
- Olwynne Cade
I hope that my 17 years as a Funeral Celebrant, will be of assistance to you to find the right words and actions, to create a funeral service that you will look back on and feel good about how you chose to say goodbye.
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