Hello From The Otherside - What do those who have died want us to know more than anything else?

Why is death such a challenging subject for us to talk about? Alongside birth, it is the one thing that we all have in common. We were all born and we will all die. 
I have had many experiences in regard to death and dying, both personally and through 20 years in the funeral industry as a celebrant and funeral director.
A workshop I taught a couple of years ago, Connect With Your Guides Through The Pendulum, produced some amazing messages from spirit to the people in the course by using their pendulums and pendulum boards.
It confirmed to us all that our loved ones and spirit guides want so much to have direct contact with us to share their insights and experiences. They want to help us better understand our lives and the after-life and for us to know they are ok and not to suffer.
I was told by those in spirit that what they want most when they die, is to let those who are left behind to mourn them, know that they are ok and they live on, are safe and not in any pain or distress. 
I know that losing someone to death is the greatest learning event next to raising children. Our suffering can be exacerbated by our beliefs. I thought I would share with you a few of the many messages I have received. It gives me joy and such hope when they share their experiences of having transitioned into the spirit realm. 
Here is a quote from a soul whom I knew while they were alive and who came through to me to share their experience of what they have discovered through their death process:
"People need to know about life and death in a more healthy way. I had no memory of the way we die. I had forgotten. The church didn’t help at all. I feel for my family who believe as I did until my death, that I would sit at the hand of God who would judge me. That is so far from the truth as I am discovering. I have rested and been given lots of love and understanding due to my belief in the church’s way of religious instruction. From now on I am re-learning what I forgot while incarnate."

A message from another soul who is now in the spirit realm:
"It’s lovely here, so peaceful and light. I miss my family and I know they miss me too. We are together forever and are never far from each other. Please talk about life after death and help to dispel the myth about how there is no hell after death." 

One of my family was terminally ill and very afraid of dying because they had led what could be described as a dark life. This was causing them great distress. Spirit told me to tell them that they were going to a beautiful place and would be met by deceased family members. I was concerned that they would reject what I had to say and I would lose communication with them. 
The complete opposite happened. They were overwhelmed with gratitude and relief to know this and felt instantly more peaceful about dying and subsequently passed a few days later. 
I received this communication about of their experience of dying and their life now in spirit:
"You telling me that I was going to a loving place when I died and that I would be met by family members helped me to not be afraid of dying and made my transition much easier. When I saw family waiting for me I knew I had died and I felt happy and free."
Recently they added, "This is the most beautiful place. So healing and forgiving. We can't be seen as we used to be seen by our family and friends on Earth, but we can communicate with them and share our insights from this side. You don't need to be a psychic/medium, just have an open heart/mind, overcome your disbelief and learn how to use your other senses; your soul senses. We are here, ready and willing to show you that life is eternal and souls never die, we are eternal and live on after our death." 
I asked them what they were doing in spirit?
"I'm helping those who have had dark lives to see the light in themselves and I am supporting those on earth who are struggling in violent and abusive relationships." 
I asked, "How are you doing that?"
"I send love and healing to them from the spirit world."
I asked if it made a difference?
"To some it does, to others they are too far into the darkness. But we never give up on them."

As has been said, if we open our hearts and minds to the possibility that life goes on after death and that our family and friends want so much to communicate with us, that they are well, happy and living on in the spirit realm, then maybe we can take some of the fear out of dying and what happens to us when we die.
Keep shining brightly,
​Olwynne